|On our wedding day|
That was 3 1/2 years ago and we are 1 year into marriage. We are no longer in that euphoric exciting fun filled newly dating and falling in love phase anymore. That phase only happens when you are newly dating and falling in love and seeing as how we are no longer newly dating and have already fallen in love that phase of our relationships is over. We still have fun but now our relationship has a whole new dimension to it. We live together. We have bills to pay. I get to wash his dirty gym clothes and he gets to listen to me complain about him not putting his keys and sunglasses in the brown basket. While we might not know everything there is to know about one another we know quite a bit and so that discovery process has slowed down. Still, when he kisses me or says "I love you" just because my heart melts. I'm still excited to see him. We love spending time together and I love coming home to him every day. I am as in love with him now as I was in those exhilarating days of dating and I want it to stay that way.
We are newlyweds just beginning our marriage journey. Those early days of dating are in the past but I don't ever want to loose that wonder and attraction that made us fall in love with each other. Therein lies the challenge. We are no longer newly dating and freshly falling in love but we are in love and we need to keep that magic alive. It's so easy to communicate when everything is perfectly uncomplicated but what about when it's not? The hardest decision we make isn't where we should go for dinner anymore, it's whether or not we should have kids, how much we should put into savings and who gets to clean the bathroom. Communication is more important now then it ever was and having the courtesy and respect for each other that we started out with will only make it easier to maintain a healthy happy relationship.
The bottom line is that as a couple you should never stop doing the things that made you fall in love in the first place and add in new things that will keep you there. Continue to be kind to each other. Listen to each other and have fun together. Think about the words you said on your wedding day. Relationships, like people are constantly evolving. As easy as it is in these early days of our relationship it might get more difficult as the years go on especially if we don't nurture and value what we have. When I see those happy couples married for 20 + years with gray hair still out there slow dancing, holding hands and going on dates it makes me smile. I know without a doubt that I want that to be us some day and it's up to us to make sure that it is.