I have never hosted any kind of gathering at my house. Ever.
- First of all I don't have a gaggle of friends. You kind of need those to invite a bunch of folks over to entertain. The ones I do have aren't part of the same circle and I'm kind of a homebody loner type if left to my own devices. For me, I figured at most it would be a friend or two here or a friend there. Back in the old days I had even less friends then I do now and was in a lackluster relationship. Entertaining like some shiny happy couple that we weren't was the last thing on my mind.
- Second, I haven't exactly unlocked the joy of cooking. I am making an effort to get in the kitchen because I want to be a good wife. I haven't found it awful but I'm just not sure it'll ever be something that I look forward to or want to do more then once or twice a week. For a party I could easily solve that problem with Pat & Oscars or El Pollo Loco-What did you think I'd resort to Pizza?-but hubby is decidedly more "hands on."
- Thirdly, it can be a lot of work and money. You have to prepare by shopping, cleaning, and cooking. You have to consider Hor's Dourves, desserts and drinks. You want everyone to have a good time so you have to put some effort and thought into that. Then there is more cleaning and dish washing late into the night after everyone goes home. And what if someone spills something? Uh...how is this fun? Normal Saturday nights include chillin' in my pj's eating popcorn, watching a DVD and dozing off to sleep by 11pm. Easy and free 99.
- Lastly, I have only ever lived in tiny and/or drab bare walled apartments that I honestly never really took much pride in. More recently I lived in the tiniest place yet. The maximum occupancy was 5 and because it was a studio having people over was sort of like inviting a group of people into your bedroom. I had 0 wine glasses and exactly 4 plates. My most frequent guests were mom and dad. Knowing that I was not equipped with food or proper cooking materials we either went out or my mom would bring something in. I rarely had any other visitors at all.
I like his friends. I like the idea having them over to see our new home and hang out but this is all just so new to me. Martha Stewart I clearly am not. NOT EVEN CLOSE. I dearly want to be but I just seem to be missing that gene. I have not done any holiday decorating, I balked at the idea of hosting Thanksgiving, i'm not doing holiday cards and am even debating if we should get a tree! I'm just the lowly assistant along for the ride but even so I am technically hosting a dinner party...dahling! At first it really just felt like work but Mj's enthusiasm is catching and now even I am starting to get excited.