|Season 1: Monet & Vaughn, Jamie & Doug, Jason & Courtney|
Then I heard about Married at First Sight. This groundbreaking show in which people agreed to be matched up by experts, and have their first meeting at the alter right before they say their wedding vows. Everything happens in their own city and they continue their regular lives as they are filmed for the show. Crazy right? I am already happily married so it's hard to say if I could bring myself to do such a thing. I hate the idea of cameras documenting it, but...I think I might be open to it. Some people walked out of the casting when they heard it would be a legal marriage. Nobody knew a thing about the show yet and the ones who remained were truly interested in taking this bizarre chance to find their life partner. Well, that was season 1 in NYC. All the crazies came out for season 2 NYC, and it was a complete train wreck. We are approaching the end of season 3 Atlanta, casting has already been announced for season 4 Miami and any hope for authenticity or true love is starting to look like a lost cause.
I love the idea of it. Why not? People meet on the internet, arranged marriages are very much a thing in some cultures, and if you have had struck out on finding a life partner on your own....well it is not entirely impossible that someone else might do a better job of it. Married at first sight, the honeymoon, move in together and 6 weeks after "I do" the couples have to decide if they will stay married or get divorced. On season one two out of the the three couples stayed together and are both entering their second year of marriage. The third wife that got divorced is now part of a spin off show called Black Love. On season two there were two out of three couples who decided to stay together, but six months later they were no longer together. Jessica and Ryan D were reduced to restraining orders. Sean and Davina had geographical barriers and Davina was a raging narcissist in my opinion. All three seasons had a couple in which the wife didn't find the husband attractive. In season one Jamie overcame this. She and Doug are still married. In season two Jaclyn overcame this and became attracted to Ryan, but he couldn't commit or overcome his attachment to living with his mom and niece.
|Season 2 (Top): Jessica & Ryan, Sean & Davina, Jessica & Ryan // Season 3: Sam & Neil, David & Ashley, Vanessa & Tres|
These couples try to fit what usually happens in months and years into six weeks. The learning to live together, the petty fights, the move towards trust, the falling in love. People are people and marriage is tricky. As a married person myself, I really find the expert advice, counseling sessions throughout the season and the way the couples navigate this process to be very interesting. There is useful information in every season.
Married at First Sight seems a heck of a lot more thought out than The Bachelor Casting. I'm sure they do a psychological evaluation as all reality TV shows probably do, but good looks and a potential story line is probably just as important if not more important as personality traits. The experts of Married at First Sight stand by their process. The questionnaires are thorough, every angle is considered, and they are truly matching people who they deem compatible, but any season after the first one is a bit spoiled for me because once a show "takes off" I really question the intentions of the participants. I should probably do that anyway, but I'm one of those people who wants to believe everything is real. Not only that, but the cameras themselves probably skew the entire process as well. Do they just want to be on TV? Do they just want to get paid? I don't know if it's true or not, but I am hearing that they are paid to be on the show and that all of their living expenses are taken care of. Are they thinking ahead to a possible spin off show like Jamie/Doug and Courtney/Jason did for staying together? Everyone from season 1 is still on TV and Jamie has started her own jewelry line. She is also a former Bachelor contestant.
Season one was legit. All three couples really seemed to be in it for the right reasons and very committed to the process. I give Jamie the side eye now and then because she seems so eager for fame, but on the other hand I think she really wanted to find love and why not capitalize on the exposure. This show seems so much more realistic than The Bachelor. I mean, they get legally married. To a stranger. I don't think anyone can take that too lightly. I want it to be real, but in the end each episode is just a snippet of what actually happened. There are cameras and ratings and the lines are so blurred that it is impossible to tell one way or the other.